I love hearing the phrase "and I 'm not the only person who thinks that." It's basically saying "hey people think this about you and you are oblivious to it."
So if you are or are not aware of how people think of you, that should somehow change the way you think and act drastically. I have always had the mentality that, you need to be you and if people don't like it, then find new friends/people. The problem is that you can't change the person you are married to. Not one bit, and divorce is never the answer. You can make suggestions, you can ask politely to modify a behavior, but when it comes down to it, that person has to agree or see the benefit in spending the time to do so.
I am also a firm believer in the saying "treat others how you want to be treated." That doesn't mean that others have to treat you the way you want to be treated...it just means that you should set the example for what you want...and maybe someone will catch on. If you want someone to treat you a certain way, then start by modifying your own behavior before you start critiquing theirs.
I wish I could with say, in all honesty, that I don't care what people think of me. I do...to an extent. To the extent where, if I do something wrong to you, please tell me about so I can make it right, or know to stay away from you because I will never be able to make it right. Either way, its usually a one-on-one thing unless I really offend multiple people somehow...but that's a conversation for another time. If you have beef with me, lets solve it. Tell me what you think and feel and lets work out a resolution. I can't help, change, or deal with what people outside of the situation, or outside of the room that we are speaking for that matter, feel or think at the very moment.
The reason I mention this is because if you need other people to help justify a stance, attitude or opinion, then I question your decision making skills and your thought process. The issue I have with using that as a qualifier for an argument is because something tells me that it wouldn't be an issue that was brought to my attention otherwise...OR you were looking for grounds to make for a stance and decided to poll people by giving them a scenario without all of the right facts to make an accurate conclusion, and then took that biased answer as your basis for the argument.
It may seem as though I am oblivious to my personality traits. I can assure you that I am not. I am largely happy with who I am. That DOES NOT however mean that there is no room for improvement or that no behavior needs modifying. I can't help or deal with issues with people that aren't brought to my attention. If someone feels a certain way, holds a grudge(and you know you hold a grudge if you tell a negative story about someone to someone else and don't say anything positive about it) but says nothing to the person who they feel it for, then that is their own fault for not seeking a resolution to an issue that they had. It is NOT a basis for someone else to make a complaint...they don't know the other side of the story and obviously didn't care to find out.
SO, this post has taught me that I will waste my time typing out my feelings to no one rather than getting the work done that I need to, which was the cause of the frustration/stress that caused me to act in a way that others have seen me act in the first place, so I can continue to not get work done and be stressed out about it, and make people in at my place of employment think that I am worthless. Maybe I'm the only one who thinks that....and I thought I said I don't care what people think of me....HA. I have issues...in the words of my father - put up or shut up....also, rap is crap.
Sarcastic Comment of the day:
I've noticed that I don't hear enough about problems people have with me, from people who are not that person.
